Building a great relationship with your child 

        Want to be an incredible parent? Need to raise a happy, healthy, well behaved kid? The secret is to make a closer association with your kid Mostly, it means making that connection with our child our highest priority. Love in action means paying thoughtful attention to what goes on between us, seeing things from the our child's point of view, and always remembering that this child who sometimes may drive us crazy is still that precious baby we welcomed into our arms with such hope. 

Start with trust 

Trust begins in infancy, when your baby learns whether she can depend on you to pick her up when she needs you. By the time babies are a year old, researchers can assess whether babies are “securelyattached” to their parents, which basically means the baby trusts that his parents can be depended on to meet his emotional and physical needs. Over time, we earn our children’s trust in other ways: following through on the promise we make to play a game with them later, not breaking a confidence, picking them up on time. In the meantime, we stretch out our trust to them by expecting the best from them and having faith in their principal goodness and potential.

Encourage 

Kids form their perspective of themselves and the world every day. They need your encouragement to see themselves as good people who are capable of good things. And they need to know you're on their side. If most of what comes out of your mouth is correction or criticism, they won't feel good about themselves, and they won't feel like you're their ally. You lose your only leverage with them, and they lose something every kid needs: to know they have an adult who thinks the world of them Being on hand when they come home is a sure-fire way to hear the highlights of the day with younger kids, and even, often, with older ones Do you listen when she jabbers on and on about her friends at preschool, even when you have more important things to think about? Then she’s more likely to tell you about her interactions with boys when she’s fourteen. 

Don’t let little rifts build up

If something’s wrong between you, find a way to bring it up and work it through positively. Choosing to withdraw (except temporarily, strategically) when your child seems intent on driving you away is always a mistake. Every difficulty is a chance to get closer or create distance. The most important part of staying available is a state of mind. Your child will sense your emotional availability. kids who feel that other things are more important to their parents often look elsewhere when they're emotionally needy. And that's our loss, as much as theirs. For more